As lightworkers, healers, and sensitive souls, we often feel a deep calling to help others. But this natural compassion can sometimes lead us into dangerous territory—where care turns into over-giving and even letting people walk over your boundaries. If you’ve ever felt drained, exhausted, or resentful after an interaction, you’re not alone.
This is one of the most common issues I encounter in my work training and mentoring lightworkers to become Angel Communicators and healer. I’ve experienced it myself many times, and one moment in particular stands out:
The Day I Learned the Power of Energy Boundaries
Years ago, I found myself cornered in a supermarket by someone who wanted an impromptu reading. Before I knew it, they were pouring out their problems, their words coming in an unstoppable stream. I felt frozen, unable to walk away.
It wasn’t just their words—it was their energy. I could feel it hooking into my solar plexus, siphoning my life force. My mind was racing: What do I do? I want to leave, but I don’t want to be rude. Why can’t I just walk away?
Then I remembered something my angels had shown me. Summoning my courage, I silently prayed to Archangel Michael for protection. I crossed my arms over my solar plexus to shield my energy and visualized a bright, protective light surrounding me.
Almost immediately, the person slowed their speech, their energy shifted, and they stopped mid-sentence. I took the opportunity to excuse myself politely and walk away.
That experience taught me a powerful lesson about energy boundaries, protection, and the importance of saying “no” when needed. I realized that over-giving wasn’t just draining me—it was blocking the other person’s growth by enabling their behavior.
The 3 Biggest Energy Drains
Over the years, I’ve seen the same patterns over and over for lightworkers, empaths, and especially spiritual business owners.
Here are the three most common ways we lose energy—and how to stop it.
1. People-Pleasing
Saying “yes” when we really mean “no” is one of the quickest ways to drain our energy (and sabotage our business as lightworkers) When we people-please, we give others access to our energy, often without realizing it. Guilt and fear of disappointing others create energy leaks that leave us feeling exhausted and resentful.
The Fix:
- Visualize your aura pulling back into your body, like a glowing light gently wrapping around you.
- Surround yourself with a protective shield of angelic light.
- Practice saying “no” with kindness but firmness. For example: “I’d love to help, but I only take appointments in business hours at my office. Here’s how you can book.”
2. Guilt and Resentment
These emotions vibrate at a low frequency and sap our energy. When we give out of obligation rather than genuine desire and a place of having the energy to do so, we drain ourselves while blocking the flow of reciprocal energy. We create resentment, which can poison the relationship with the person you are trying to help. This serves no one! Guilt is not a genuine reason to help another.
The Fix:
- Ask yourself: Am I giving from love, or out of guilt?
- Take a moment to tune into your heart and honor your own needs and priorities before agreeing to requests.
- Remember, saying “no” is an act of self-love that teaches others to respect your boundaries.
3. Overpowering Energies
Sometimes, people unconsciously (or consciously) latch onto our energy, especially if we’re healers or lightworkers. They may dominate conversations, take advantage of kindness, or expect us to provide support outside our personal and professional boundaries.
The Fix:
- Protect your solar plexus by crossing your arms or placing your hands over your stomach if connecting with someone who is crossing your energy boundaries.
- Call on Archangel Michael to shield you and release any energy hooks.
- Keep a ready response for unexpected requests, such as: “I’d love to help, but I’m not available right now. Please visit my website to schedule a session.” or “I have a policy not to offer swaps in my business”
- Make a list of personal boundaries. (No one else needs to see the list). For instance: “I give myself permission to say no to invitations if I don’t want to go.” ” I will leave if I feel uncomfortable”
- Create policies around your spiritual or therapy business and have terms and conditions for working with you to protect your boundaries and let people know your terms!
Why Boundaries Matter
When we set clear boundaries and protect our energy, we’re not only honoring ourselves but also teaching others how to respect us. Over-giving, guilt-giving, and carrying others’ burdens doesn’t help anyone in the long run. In fact, it can block both yours and their growth and healing.
When you over-give you take from another life area such as your time, finances, or rest time, you create a deficit- and you send a message into the Universe that you don’t value what you have. This can lead to lack and scarcity, health issues, and feelings of resentment.
If you are a lightworker and a business owner, boundaries and energy protection become even more essential to protect your gifts, your clients, your business, your finances, and you. People will respect you more if you have clear boundaries. (I teach this in my ACP program)
A Prayer for Energy Protection
One of the most powerful tools I’ve learned from the angels is prayer and intention.
“Archangel Michael, please shield my energy from anything or anyone that drains or hooks into me. Surround me with your protective light and help me release anything that is not mine to carry. Thank you for restoring my energy and guiding me to set clear boundaries with love and grace.”
I teach this and more in my Angel Communication Practitioner (ACP) course, where we dive deep into energy protection, boundaries, and ethical practices for practitioners and healers.
Ready to Feel Empowered in Your Energy?
If this resonates with you, I invite you to explore my ACP course, where you’ll learn how to protect your energy, set boundaries, and share your gifts without burnout.
Click here to learn more about ACP.
Video classes: Energy Skills for Lightworkers and
Releasing Energy Thieves and Psychic Cords
Free Resource: Protect Your Energy PDF
To support you on this journey, I’ve created a free downloadable PDF that includes:
- The Empath’s Prayer: A simple, angel-inspired prayer for daily protection.
- Aura-Pulling Visualization: A step-by-step guided exercise to help you reclaim your energy and feel centered.
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